Kayley Chartier

The story of the beautiful Queen Guinevere leaving adorable Richard Harris with a bowl-cut is one of the worst cinematic (but also theatrical and literary) tragedies in history, and if it weren’t for the wonderful music, my parents probably wouldn’t have let me watch Camelot so young (granted, we never watched the entire second half because adultery). Still, each year, “It’s May! It’s May! The lusty month of May!” rings out from my record player for reasons of nostalgia and general merry-making. Last year I started a tradition of making and delivering May-Day baskets, or rather rekindled it, as my mother used to do this with me when I was very young.

On my way back from my journey around the neighborhood this morning, a sweet older neighbor ran outside with two bouquets in hand: this year’s collection of button daisies and roses, as well as the one from last year. “I keep it hung on my wall” she said, pointing to the faded purple cone of dried blooms.

I owe my love for all things celebrations to my mom. When she was 12, she led a homespun parade through her neighborhood, recruiting local kids to sing and dance and march in Christmas costumes. My mom appeared, of course, as none other than Mrs. Santa Claus on roller skates. The newspaper did a write up on it. She made front page.

This last week, after my seniors had finished their study of Pride and Prejudice, I decided to throw a tea. We had scones, cookies, lots of berries, and plenty of laughs as we talked and watched the BBC version together. It reminded me of my high school days where I would force my friends to picnic with me in the middle of campus, lugging baskets of teacups and chicken sandwiches onto the school bus in an attempt to make the everyday a little more special.

Is is extra? Yes. My mom and I were discussing how our celebration drawers (two big drawers stuffed with gift tags, pretty ribbons, streamers, banners, and doilies) could benefit from a little Spring cleaning. But my philosophy is that if Jesus’ love is extravagant, we can afford to be a little extra sometimes, too. And there’s nothing wrong with that.

2 Corinthians 13:14 “The amazing grace of the Master, Jesus Christ, the extravagant love of God, the intimate friendship of the Holy Spirit, be with all of you.”

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My first encounter with J.R.R. Tolkien’s Lord of the Rings series was a little too late in life. I was a Junior in highschool when I first saw the films. (Sadly I didn’t actually read the books until I was twenty three.) In the middle of the most academically challenging year of my highschool career, I reached for the things many sixteen year-olds find solace in: escapism in fantasy, adventure (stories of battles on horseback and arcane elven magic are far more compelling when you spend most of your time studying for Chemistry tests), and of course, romance. Like many girls my age, I dreamt of finding my own dark, mysterious ranger– bonus points if he resembled Viggo Mortensen. Lovers of the books know that the Peter Jackson films are far from perfect, but one of the things that grieves me most is the exclusion of one of the most beautiful love stories I’ve read. It’s not Aragorn and Arwen’s forbidden love–which reads as little more than a typology of Beren and Luthien–but the tale of Eowyn and Faramir. 

Eowyn, a beautiful and hard-nosed Shieldmaiden and niece of the King of Rohan first falls in love with the ranger Aragon. Of course, this love develops from afar. He is valiant and admirable and she becomes infatuated. But the love is one-sided. Aragorn rejects her and she heads to fight in the Battle of Pelennor, fully expecting death. After the battle in which she kills the Witch-King of Angmar, Eowyn suffers a fatal blow and is taken to rehabilitate in the Houses of Healing, albeit restlessly. She desires to fight, at one point even arguing with the Warden that “those who have not swords can still die upon them” (ch 5).

Also in the Houses of Healing is Faramir, the younger son of the Steward of Gondor. Like Eowyn Faramir is also rejected, not by a lover but by his father, the Steward of Gondor, who attempts to burn him alive. Though more noble than his brother Boromir, Faramir is second best in his father’s eyes. After incurring his own fatal wounds, he meets Eowyn in the Halls–and though she still harbors feelings for Aragorn, he begins to love her. At first glance, this is far from a Hollywood romance. As Faramir falls in love with the solemn lady in white, Eowyn gloomily meets his advances with ice.

It’s important to note that Eowyn never truly loved Aragorn. To her he was an idea–not a real man who she could know, and much more importantly, neither was he a man who could truly know her. It was his prowess and success that attracted her. At best, it was a crush; at worst, her feelings stemmed from a desire for glory.

As Eowyn and Faramir convalesce in the Houses of Healing, she sees herself as more prisoner than patient. She tells Faramir bitterly, “…I do not desire healing,’ she said. ‘I wish to ride to war like my brother Eomer, or better like Theoden the king, for he died and has both honour and peace.’” Though she rejects his love, Eowyn and Faramir become friends. They walk together in the garden, speaking, sitting in silence, healing.

Then one day, Faramir speaks his heart. He sees right through her:

“‘You desired to have the love of the Lord Aragorn. Because he was high and puissant, and you wished to have renown and glory and to be lifted far above the mean things that crawl on the earth. And as a great captain may to a young soldier he seemed to you admirable. For so he is, a lord among men, the greatest that now is. But when he gave you only understanding and pity, then you desired to have nothing, unless a brave death in battle. Look at me, Eowyn!’

And Éowyn looked at Faramir long and steadily; and Faramir said: ‘Do not scorn pity that is the gift of a gentle heart, Éowyn! But I do not offer you my pity. For you are a lady high and valiant and have yourself won renown that shall not be forgotten; and you are a lady beautiful, I deem, beyond even the words of the elven-tongue to tell. And I love you. Once I pitied your sorrow. But now, were you sorrowless, without fear or any lack, were you the blissful Queen of Gondor, still I would love you. Éowyn, do you not love me?’

Then the heart of Éowyn changed, or else at last she understood it. And suddenly her winter passed, and the sun shone on her.”

It is only when we feel the paralyzing light of exposure and the sweetness of grace that we can consider ourselves truly known, and it is only when we are understood in this way that we are truly loved. 

Thus, the most beautiful love stories are not the sweeping romances driven solely by eros but those where grace and understanding even in the midst of brokenness powerfully break through the shame and regret of the beloved, forming the strong base that is unconditional agape love. 

And it is God’s love that operates in just this way. 

The true House of Healing, then, is at the side of Jesus, reclining at the table and leaning against his breast; it is putting our fingers in his hands and side and accepting His grace in exchange for our many doubts; it is standing on the banks of the Sea of Galilee with Peter saying, “yes Lord, I love you” after denying him three times.

Through the sacred act of confession the Lord is able to bear our burdens and heal us. He gives beauty for our ashes and anoints our unworthy heads with His holy oil. He draws us to Himself knowing full-well that we are beggars unable to pay for His bread–but then he calls Himself “bread”–the zoe Bread of Life. Eowyn’s winter passes when she realizes that Faramir loves her in a way that Aragorn could not. He has seen her in her sadness and mourning. He has been the recipient of her ice and still longed to bring her into the sun. Miraculously, Faramir’s confession prompts a surprising change of heart in the once-grave Shieldmaiden. She cries, “I will be a shield- maiden no longer, nor vie with the great Riders, nor take joy only in the songs of slaying. I will be a healer, and love all things that grow and are not barren.’”

With love comes healing, and with healing, the desire to heal. The Gospel writer John writes that Christ’s love is the grand catalyst; we love because we were first loved and made lovely (1 John 4:19)

In the end, Eowyn admits that she no longer desires to be Queen. They embrace above the garden wall in the sight of many–an emblem of grace and the restorative power of unconditional love. When we accept the love of Christ, our desires change and we respond by laying our crowns at His feet. 

Sixteen year-old me knew infatuation (especially for fictitious rangers), but she did not fully know love because she had not yet allowed Love to know her. Allowing Christ in to see the crooked, cobwebbed parts of my heart has been a process spanning many years, and I expect it will continue for the rest of my life. I have put up barriers of my own and followed after lesser-loves who could not give me what my heart needed. Yet He pursued me, patiently healing my heart, walking with me in my mourning until I could finally accept that He, in fact, was the sun. 

This year began with a plunge into the ocean. In the middle of the night, straight into cold water–the exact kind of thing I usually don’t like. I told Calvin I was going to need to be thrown in if I was going to do this midnight dip thing, and he happily obliged. I remember bracing, closing my eyes as tightly as I could, and suddenly being in the air. Then came the plunge. The feeling was what I imagine getting shut into a washing machine would be like. A few seconds went by before I emerged and opened my eyes. At first I legitimately didn’t know where I was.

My brain was saying one thing only. Run.

We sprinted back up the beach, up the long Seacliff stairs under a shower of fireworks, and back through the softly illuminated seaside neighborhood, shouting and laughing as we ran. I was in utter disbelief at what had just happened. One minute I was dreading the icy waves, the next I was feeling clean and invigorated and happy. The night ended with the six of us packed into a friend of a friend’s backyard sauna singing songs and doing bad impressions and stand up. In the sauna my sister and I sat across from each other and giggled. What kind of fever dream was this?

Since then things haven’t been as crazy fun… they’ve just been crazy. First of all, school started back up with one week online before we headed back into the classroom. It’s been mostly great, but also, try taking 35 teenagers who have just spent a month at home and tell them to write poetry while their friends who get to go to virtual school are at home in their fuzzy socks.

Also, as of late my car has been having some expen$ive issues resulting in me having to use my dad’s car, which then started having its own issues. To be more detailed, issues like stalling on the freeway during the biggest storm of the year and hydroplaning across three lanes. That wasn’t my idea of a great Tuesday night activity, but hey, I’m just happy nothing super serious happened.

Someone humorously remarked that so far, 2021 is just 2020 with bangs. I’m seeing it. But before the New Year I prayed over a word to focus on, pray over, and hopefully grow into. After a few days of praying it became clear that that word was “peace,” which sounds great and doable at Christmas when the word is plastered on every card and Christmassy ornament, and nearly impossible to achieve when you’ve spun out on the freeway in the middle of a rainstorm.

But I do need peace. His peace. And as I’ve prayed into this word this last month, I have come to viscerally learn the difference it makes when I stop myself and my spiraling thoughts and ask (more like beg) to be shown His peace. My struggle with anxiety and perfectionism means that there will always be a battle for my heart between those two really bad masters I keep trying to serve and the one Good Master who has already served me and set me free. This quest for peace, then, isn’t a journey toward something Jesus hasn’t already given to me. It’s a battle for my passions, the things my heart chooses to focus on. It’s a battle to take captive every thought that sets itself up against the truth I have in Christ and make it obey him (2 Cor. 10:5). And in that battle He’s already fighting for me, I receive the gift He has already bought for me: peace.

So this year, my goal is to truly take each anxious thought captive–to chase it down, hog tie it, throw it in the back of the truck (where did I get a truck?), and bring it to Sea Cliff State beach. Then I will carry it down to the sand, bend low and then spring up, throwing it into the icy water to be washed. Then I’ll pray that it stumbles back up the slope, a bit disoriented, but mostly invigorated and full of His life and His purpose–ready to run freely through the street below the glow of fireworks.

Lord, help me to reign in my anxious thoughts and baptise my mind with your peace.